by Kate Dardine
In the movie, The
Wizard of Oz, Dorothy, the Tin Man and the Scarecrow are walking through
the spooky forest when they are stopped in their tracks by a loud roar. They
are terribly frightened, and imagining the worst, they quicken their pace to
put some distance between themselves and the imagined danger.
How many times in your life have you done the very same
thing: imagined the worst and run away before taking the time to face your
fears? How many times did your big fear turn out to be no more threatening than
the cowardly lion himself?
For many of us, the fear of rejection has us running from
situations that might actually be beneficial. As an artist, my work is very personal; I put
my heart and soul into each piece. When I look at one of my paintings, I know
what my emotional state was at the time I created it. Showing my work can leave
me feeling vulnerable – and so maybe I decide not to risk seeking gallery
representation, entering a show or even showing my work to anyone at all. The
fear of being rejected roars from the shadows, convincing me that the risk is
too BIG and SCARY.
But what if I confronted that fear? Stopped and looked it in
the eye? What is the worst that could happen? The gallerist may decide that my
work is not a good fit. OK, there are other galleries. I might not get accepted
into the show. OK, there are other shows. Someone may say they don’t like the
painting. OK, not everyone is going to like everything. Those are risks I can
live with, and the benefits - being
represented by a gallery, getting into to the show and maybe winning an award,
having someone deeply connect with my work – are worth the momentary pang of
self-doubt that we all feel when moving outside our comfort zone.
In order to market their work, artists need to spend a
certain amount of time outside the safety of their studio. There are opening
receptions, awards ceremonies, gallery walks, auctions and banquets that we
must attend. In my case, I usually go by myself. I used to fear going alone – I
felt that I needed another body there, someone to talk to… a security blanket to
shield me from the uncomfortable task of seeking out new people. Leaving my
“blanket” behind and attending functions solo was very scary. The first time I
could barely get myself out of the car! It took awhile, but I found the courage
to walk up to people and introduce myself. And just like most fears, the
imagined part was much worse than the actuality.
Although I am not by
nature an extrovert, I can smile and be friendly. I can introduce myself and
ask “Is this your first time in the gallery?” or, “How are you connected to
this organization?” I have yet to have
anyone refuse to speak to me or laugh at me or make me feel stupid. I have yet
to pass out or say something incredibly stupid (at least no one has been rude
enough to tell me!) However, I have met lots of wonderful people, some of whom
have ended up buying paintings from me, some of whom have been good connections
and some of whom have become friends. Now the big scary monster I feared has
been reduced to a few fluttering butterflies in my stomach.
Next time you start convincing yourself not to do something
because it is outside your comfort zone, look your fear in the eye and do it
anyway. Just like the Mighty Oz, your fear may turn out to be no more than a
frightened little man hiding behind a curtain. And you will discover, like the
Tin Man, the Scarecrow and the Lion, you have lots of Heart, you’re Smart, and
you’ve got Courage to spare! But you’ll never find out if you don’t try.
Kate Dardine is a professional artist and the marketing director for Fine Print Imaging and Colorado Frames. You can see her work at www.katedardine.com.
